Saturday, May 2, 2009

My Unbelievable Encounter

First I want to say THANK YOU to everyone for your Happy Birthday wishes to me yesterday! You all truly made my day with your kind and thoughtful words...THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!

Now for my not so wonderful and totally UNBELIEVABLE birthday story. As most of you who have been following my blog for awhile already know...my 3 year-old son has Cerebral Palsy. Due to his disability, we have been issued a Handicap Placard by the State of Florida, which we are legally able to use while he is in the car with us. *We don't use it when we are alone...the tag is issued to him, and goes with him in whichever vehicle he rides in*. Bear with me...there is a reason why I'm telling you this.

Yesterday afternoon around 4:30pm I loaded all 4 boys into my Expedition in order to run up to the market to pick up a few items. We pulled into the Handicap spot in front of the store, and I got out to get the double stroller out of the back. As I was getting ready to put my 3 year-old in it, I heard some guy yell, "Hey Lady...you know you're in a Handicap spot?" I turn to see a big Biker guy with a bushy moustache and numerous tatoos down each arm. Now I have nothing against tatoos OR bikers. My father owns a motorcycle and loves riding...I know that most bikers are really good people, but it was obvious this man was an exception, and appeared to really have some sort of issue. I calmly answer him, "Yes, my son has a disability, and I have the Handicap tag and his ID card with me". Well, he yells to me, "BULL SH**", and acts as if he is going to come at me, but then realizes there are numerous people watching this take place, and walks off into the Liquor store (which is next to/adjoining the market) still cursing at me with horrible, horrible language.

I finish loading my 2 youngest into the stroller and we head into the store. At this point my oldest is very concerned that the guy is going to come after us. I assure him that we will be safe inside the store, and that I will call 911 if he continues to harass us. We remain at the front of the store in the produce section to keep an eye out and watch for him to leave. My son sees him come out of the liquor store, so we are both looking out the window at this point. Now, the man's Harley Davidson motorcycle is parked on the left side of the aisle, and my Expedition is on the right side of the aisle with the driver side facing towards us. He walks around the back of my car, up the passenger side , and then further down the row to his bike. He's by it for a minute, then walks back up the row toward my car, back down the passenger side, around the back of my car, and then walks back into the liquor store. After a minute or so he comes back out of the store, gets on his bike, and leaves...at this point I am pretty much shaken, but just thankful he is gone, and tell my son not to worry...we will pick up our groceries and go home for my birthday dinner.

After we checkout, we head out to the car to load everyone back in...that is when I see what he was truly up to...he had KEYED the entire passenger side of my car from the back bumper to the front bumper. Now this isn't a simple scratch...he GOUGED the car as deep as possible with his key, or whatever it was that he used to vandalize it. I was just in complete and utter SHOCK!!! I had done NOTHING to provoke this man, I was parked in the spot LEGALLY, he saw my tag hanging in the window, and STILL chose to accost my children and me, PLUS vandalized our property!!! WHAT KIND OF HUMAN BEING ACCOSTS A WOMAN WITH HER 4 YOUNG CHILDREN IN A SUPERMARKET PARKING LOT...AND IN BROAD DAYLIGHT FOR THAT MATTER????

So, I take the boys and we head into the Liquor Store to see if the clerk knows who the guy is. The only information she will give is that he comes in a couple times a day, and she suggests we come back to the parking lot in the next day or two to try and get his tag number. She also suggests I go next door to talk to the manager and ask him to see if they got the guy on videotape. The manager also dials the Police so that I can report it and request an officer to come to the store. I do and the officer arrives about 2o minutes later. He has me fill out an incident report, but says there isn't a lot of hope in getting the guy for it since we saw him from the other side of the car, and not actually *in the act*. Pretty absurd, since I was in the store to get away from him to begin with, so why in the world would I want to be close enough to him to watch him actually do it?

I think I was really in a state of shock until last evening when I had a chance to sit down and really think about it. Now I am just really thankful that my boys and I are safe, but at the same time I am really, really angry, as this whole occurrence is wrong on SO MANY LEVELS! The car being keyed is just a small factor...the fact that this man (clearly intoxicated) who attacked a woman and her children (one of whom has a disability) in the parking lot of a supermarket in broad daylight is allowed to be out driving the streets and a part of society is absolutely troubling, frustrating, and mind boggling, to say the least!!! My husband and I plan to call the Police Department to tell them we want to pursue this further and press charges against this man...hopefully he will be found so that we can do so. I will follow up with the store to see if they have found out anymore information about him, especially since he is a frequent customer to their liquor store, and the bag boy told me he has seen the guy cuss out and accost other store patrons, as well. He is obviously a *repeat* offender as far as that goes, and should be banned from their property. I personally believe he should be taken off the streets for being a menace to our community. Honestly...he had NO RIGHT to do what he did to me, my children, and our vehicle...it's just SO absolutely UNBELIEVABLE and ABSURD!!!

Please be careful when you are out and about! I would never have imagined this would happen in our small city...this goes to show that personal attacks can happen anytime, anywhere, and to anyone.



71 comments:

  1. OMG! First and foremost, I am happy to hear that you and your sons are okay. Second, that guy... wtf?!? He is clearly insane. So let me get this straight, he *thinks* you are "cheating the law" (which you clearly are *not*) so he does something illegal? Outrageous behavior. You should consider a civil lawsuit. Also, you handled yourself wonderfully- you stayed calm and you protected yourself & your family by staying in the store.

    Lastly, I know this is a bit late... but *happy birthday* FFM! You truly are the best! :)

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  2. Wow...that really is unbelievable. I hope your kids are okay and not too shaken up after that. And that you are okay too!

    I saw your references to your son's therapy appointments but never knew what they were for. I do autism/aspergers advocacy and am glad to see that you manage to do so much for your children and still have a life! My fingers are crossed for you that they go after this guy and he gets what he deserves. He must be so miserable to have to do that to people.

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  3. I'm SO sorry you've endured this frightening event. In another life I was a criminal defense atty, so knew what was about to happen as I read your story (tho I predicted tire slashing). I've just come, personally, to leave all angry people aside--drive away, get out of target area. It's not just HIM, there's others. They are mentally deranged, on drugs, unpredictable. Cell phone their cars, bikes, face, in public so they can see it and drive away (I say this for the benefit of others to whom it may happen). Remember, it's NOT really the handicapped slot issue--he'd've found something else. *** You successfully protected your kids from seeing violence--only property destruction--and being safe in the end. As the economy plunges and mental illness/drugs are rampant, people are taking their anger out on strangers and their own family. Sigh.

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  4. Oh, FFM, that is so aweful and scary, thank God you and your babies are ok. You did the right thing to stay in the store. What is scary is the hate some people have, with absolutely no reason. I think pursue it w/ the police, at least you know you are doing what you can. I guess you can try to chalk it up to his being a substance abuser, but still. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Happy belated B/Day.

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  5. First and foremost, lets be super-thankful that you and your boys are just fine (minus being shaken up...) That is such a scary story! I hope you get the info on this guy...what a jerk. I know this probably happens everywhere, but I think Fla is just stocked full of crazies like this guy...geeze.

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  7. WOW. My mouth was dropped open for your entire story. It truly makes me sad that there are people like that out in the world. Even though I get angry at them, I always want them to go like, get a hug or something. Something has clearly gone wrong in their lives for them to be acting out on other, innocent people.

    I'll echo everyone else's sentiments...thank goodness you and your children are okay. I hope you are able to do some "detective work" and find out who this guy is to press charges. What an awful thing to happen on your birthday!!!

    Regardless of this event, I hope you were able to have a lovely birthday! :)

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  8. Thank you everyone! I am also so thankful that we are ok! I really had no idea he would do something like this...I just figured he would get what he came for in the liquor store and then leave, otherwise I would have left. I just think it's so sad that this type of ordeal is becoming more and more commonplace nowadays.

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  9. Isn't it strange how sometimes we can be just going about our business and somebody else can approach us with a bad attitude/rudeness! These things used to really bother me...in fact sometimes wreck my whole day...but last week I had an encounter with someone who actually told me she "hoped my dog was hit by a car"--WOW! But for some reason it I didn't hang on to this and let it bother me and wreck my day off...and I was happy that I didn't waste my energy focusing on it! I'm sorry that happened to you with your boys and on YOUR BIRTHDAY! I had someone key my car and--I had a good idea who the person was--but the camera's in the parking lot didn't record that particular side of my car(it's like the guy knew that!)...no witnesses either...so although I filled out a police report...their was nothing that could be proved or done. I hope the cameras caught this
    "menace to society" on tape for you! Not only did he key your car but he's probably drinking while driving his bike and could end up killing someone!!!

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  10. Wow, that's awful. Very glad you are all okay. Many years ago I had an altercation in the car with my then two year old daughter in the backseat. I lived in Park City, UT at the time and I was returning home from the mall in Salt Lake City. Driving up the mountain on I-80 I was passing a slow moving truck when a car decided to ride my bumper and flash his lights. After I passed, I returned to the right lane. The tailgaiting car then tried to run me off the road several times(on a mountain no less). He then followed me. I pulled into a store parking lot near my home and stopped the car, got out and confronted him. He said he was just trying to scare me because I shouldn't have been driving in the left lane. People are nuts!
    If I were you I would definetly pursue it. If he visits the liquor store that often he's obviously impaired while he's driving and will eventually hurt/kill someone. Unfortunately your children will remember this for a long time.
    By the way, Happy Belated Birthday!

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  11. OMG! thank goodness you and your sons are okay! that would have scared the heck out of me!!! i hope you guys catch that horrible person!! you and your sons (and no one in that matter) EVER deserves that! take care and be safe! happy belated FFM! :)

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  12. Oh, sweety, this is just one of the most awful situations I have ever heard of anyone encountering. I am so very sorry. You all are in my prayers.

    You are an amazing woman on so many levels. God will give you the courage and strength to get through this.

    Oh, I am so spitting mad (and it take a lot for me to get this way). I want to march down there with all of the other JCAs and wait for him and just give him the biggest piece of my mind. And then the next JCA, and then the next, and so on until that man is not only apologizing (and swearing to fix your car) but he is also committing to everyone around that he will do community service for many years to come for doing such an awful thing.

    You take care (as much as possible) this weekend.

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  13. Oh FFM, I am shocked and so sorry to hear about this horrible incident that happened to you and your children yesterday. This horrible man's behavior was dispicable! I'm just relieved that you an your children weren't physically harmed, despite the property and emotional damage he inflicted.

    For all women, if at any moment in a situation like this you feel threatened, PLEASE do not hesitate to pull your phone out of your handbag and call 911 the instant that you being to feel uneasy, even if it's in a public place. As with FFM's situation, it's impossible to predict what an unstable or intoxicated person may do. Usually the police respond very quickly to a 'woman in distress' call or the person will back off when they see you dialing.

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  14. that is horrible! i'm so sorry! and on your birthday in front of your children! what's wrong with people!?

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  15. First: happy belated birthday!!
    I am glad you posted about this, as it not only serves as a message to everyone out there regarding women getting attacked for NO REASON what so ever. It is important that you, like "Professor" said, protected your children from seeing a violent act! Good job mommy! I hope you and your husband press charges to this man/creature. He obv. is angry at the world, and it's not YOU he is personally mad at. It's the world. And before he does it again, you may be preventing more violence to occur. So, congratulations, good job mommy, and i hope you have a wonderful weekend!

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  16. i am so sorry such a horrible thing happened to you. that man is a complete menace. i cannot believe he did that to you in front of your kids. i really hope that the police prosecute him. i would say your circumstantial evidence is very strong and he is guilty well beyond a reasonable doubt in my mind.

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  17. That's just the worst story ever! And seriously, there was nothing you could've done to prevent it - that's the most troubling. Why he felt he had to take it upon himself to "teach you a lesson" - or whatever stupid logic he had for keying your car.... The fact you were parked in a handicapped spot wasn't even AFFECTING him. So glad to hear you and your boys are okay - definitely DEFINITELY do whatever is in your power to get this guy. Hopefully you'll be able to let it go and return to the supermarket in the future without the fear of being accosted. At the very least - I hope you're able to move past it and let it go - holding onto it for longer than you should - out of fear, anger, etc. only means he has won. So sorry to hear all this happened to you...and on your birthday. So awful!

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  18. And of course, if you figure out his name, and he is arrested, he is, by law, informed of your name and full address, which will probably cause you to drop the case rather than have him know that information.

    What is shocking to me, is the fact that he and his behavior is known to both stores, and that he is still allowed on the property. You might have a decent case for a suit against the corporate entity that owns that mall. That parking lot is private property, and he has been witnessed verbally harassing customers.
    Good Luck!

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  19. I was hoping this was going to be a good story. How awful. I agree w/Alexis on doing small claims. He sounds like an awful drunk. Someone needs to get him on video. Sounds ilke it would be easy to do since he is a repeat offender. Sadly, it's just a matter of time before he meets up w/the wrong person & someone gets hurt.

    I'm so glad you & the boys are safe.

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  20. I am horrified by your story, but so grateful that you are all ok. This is like something you watch on tv...so now we are not safe in a public place in broad daylight? I hope the police are able to get a lead on this. If you need some help, I know a couple of hundred loyal followers of your blog who would be willing to help out:) Please enjoy your weekend with your family. You deserve a second attempt at a happy birthday.

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  21. Wow what a horrible humanbeing this man is! I'm so sorry this happened to your family. OMG I'm just in shock. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I pray you all bring this bastard to justice.

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  22. That makes my stomach. :( What a jerk. Kudos to you for following thru, I hate it when people get away with this stuff! Go FFM!

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  23. err, I meant to say that makes my stomach HURT.

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  24. I am just so appalled at this and positively sick to my stomach. Your children are so lucky to have you as mama bear and protector. I am so thankful that you all are ok. I'm so glad that you called the police as this man is clearly a menace to society as a whole. I just can't even think of the right words because I am just overwhelmed thinking about it.

    Please keep us posted and let us know if there is anything we can do for you, even if it's just the virtual shoulder to lean on and hug. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  25. oh i am so sorry! that must have been so upsetting and frightening :( and to happen on your birthday too. i do sincerely hope you had a wonderful day otherwise.

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  26. This is the worst! I am sorry. I am glad you were in the store when his anger was at it's peak. What a nut. I had a lady YELL at me in a parking lot once in front of my children. It was no where near as bad as your event. I hated it. She was mad because I was not backing out fast enough so that she could have my parking spot. The weird thing is... she was going into an ABC store too!! CRAZY. Glad you are following up on this awful man.

    Happy Birthday. :)

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  27. Happy Birthday. I am also a Florida Mom. My son is now 20 years old with cerebral palsy. Jake is a quadrapalegia. I wish I could say this is an unusual accurance, but sadly people can be quite cruel (though I would like to believe it is out of ignorance).
    Jake has a website called www.wheelchair-connection.com. And I have been trying to appeal to Florida and DOE to provide him with an education. I sent this video of Jake to the government, but they denied his request. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EE2kIUCwr7U
    You seem to have a good support group. Hold them dearly, because you never know when you are realy going to need their support.
    Sandra

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  28. FFM: I would not pursue pressing charges, this guy is unstable, when and if he this guy is charged who knows what he is going to do to you and your family. I was in in a similar situation last Christmas, I had to walk away from the situation, I wanted to take him to court, I was advised not to for my own safety I had to drop it. The violence and harassment would have escalated.

    I am sorry this happened to you, people are truly nuts. Belated Happy Birthday!

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  29. FFM, I am so sorry that this happened to you and your boys.... what a truly horrible experience! As bad as the situation was, thankfully neither you nor your boys were physically harmed. That is the most important thing. But I can totally understand your anger towards this guy, because you did nothing to provoke him at all. His issues are his own, and unfortunately he took them out on you, a complete stranger. What a jerk. Seriously.
    I hope that you are able to put this behind you, and find peace and security. Happy belated birthday, and may every happiness be yours! You rock, FFM!

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  30. Yikes! Sounds like he is just a jerk. In addition to how he harassed and frightened you and your children, and damaged your property, he should be arrested for DUI. Thankfully you and your family are safe and he did not physically harm you or your kids. I'd be fearful of pressing charges too. You never know who he is in cahoots with. :(

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  31. Oh my gosh, I am so so sorry you had to experirence the wrath of a clearly ill man! He is angry and taking it out on innocent bystanders. I am so glad that you will try to persue the matter to prevent him from hurting your family or others again. I will keep you and your family, and your quest to find him in my prayers.

    -Suzy

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  32. I'm so very sorry to hear what happened to you. I'm very relieved you and your boys are all safe. That is the most important thing.

    I'v seen some strange things happen in parking lots even in busy areas. For example, when I was in high school (before the days of cell camera phones being everywhere), I saw a man parked directly across from me hitting his wife/girlfriend in his car. Then he looked across at me in my car and smiled at me in a crazy way and hit her again. I freaked and felt like a deer in headlights. I took down the license number, car color, etc. and then slowly drove off watching them and hoping he wouldn't follow me. When I called the police from a local pay phone, they said they would check the mall parking lot. I never heard what became of anything that I reported.

    Now in case of any emergencies, I keep a few of the local police department phone numbers saved in my cell phone. I do this because when you call 911 from a cell phone, it goes to CHP rather than any local police dept. I also keep a a small digital camera in my bag so I can take videos if needed and a notepad/pen. This recently helped out when a friend got rear-ended and she didn't have any of the above with her.

    You did what you could at that time and you were right to remove yourself from someone who was intoxicated and behaved erratically. I'm sorry about you car and hope your insurance fixes it soon. And I do hope they get this guy. I'm sure his past actions will catch up with him at some point.

    Hugs to you and yours.

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  33. dear FFM,
    so sorry to hear about the incident!
    i am glad your and your boys are safe.
    happy belated birthday!
    hope it was still good despite the scary situation.
    ina

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  34. wow! 1. happy belated birthday! 2. O-M-G. That is so scary. You are so right for not confronting him tho because you never know what he would have done to you/children physically. I hope the cops get him!

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  35. I read your blog to my son Jake. I don't believe in violence, but Jake did say he would have run the guy over in his wheelchair to protect you and your children.

    I think I would have allowed him.
    I hope you had a wonderful birthday and you meet people as Fabulous as you are.
    Sandra, another Florida Mom

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  36. I'm so sorry to hear about your awful encounter. The guy sounds like a lunatic and I hope he gets what he deserves, whether you are able to prosecute him or not. Even though it's frustrating that he might get away with it, I think you did the right thing by not confronting him. Let us know how it turns out...

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  37. FFM,

    I just started reading your blog and felt compelled to comment on this. Wow...that's scary! I'm soooo happy that you and your boys are okay. You are so strong! It's sad that people have so much hatred and anger over a parking space! What a wack-o! I also think a civil lawsuit is worth considering.

    I hope you managed to have a good birthday inspite of the horrible events.

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  38. Hi, I stumbled into your blog and read about this horror store. I am so sorry about what had happened to you and very admire your calm and brave.

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  39. Oh FFM, my heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that scary situation. You did the right thing, protecting your family first. You never know what someone as unstable as that jerk would have done otherwise. I'm so thankful you & your kids are okay. I sure hope the police apprehend that guy and I will pray for your family, regardless of however you choose to pursue the matter.

    You're an awesome lady... don't ever forget that! Hugs & Happy Birthday to ya!

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  40. i was horrified after reading this. Thank God you and your boys are ok! i am praying for you and for the arrest of that jerk! Please keep us posted

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  41. FFM I am so sorry about what happened to you. IMHO, it's BS what the police told you... it doesn't matter that you didn't see the guy doing this. That's what circumstantial evidence is for and often it is even better than direct evidence to prove a case... and like other said, maybe he got caught on parking lot video. Let's hope so. The police can be hard to deal with because they've seen it all, and things aren't as important to them as they are to you, the victim. I'm not bashing police at all, I have many friends who are police officers and totally respect what they do. But I mean, they can be jaded. I don't blame them.
    But I hope you'll pursue this anyway. It won't be easy but if this guy would key your car in this situation, I hate to imagine what else he would do to someone else.

    You are obviously such a good person (you once responded to an e-mail from me about what shoes to wear with a certain color of dress... who else would do that for a total stranger when she probably gets tons of similar fashion related requests every day!?); you didn't deserve this! Sorry to write a book but, I'm hopping mad! I hope that, if you want to, you succeed in bringing this horrible person to justice.

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  42. I came over to say "Happy Birthday"!
    But, now I need to say that I am so sorry this happened to you! I just knew what he was going to do before you wrote it. I guess I've seen my share of freaks, so I am always worried about this kind of thing.
    You know what my advice is?--morons like that are the kind that I stay away from. Honestly I'd be afraid of your family's safety if you pressed charges against this violent alcoholic man. You might not want to provoke him, even though right now you are probably feeling angry about it. Better just to let it go and let him focus on someone else. It's not worth worrying about your safety for a long time to come.
    :(

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  43. I'm SO sorry about what happened to you. It is sickening and frightening. For the last week I've been shaken up by an experience I had with an agitated stranger at a restaurant - but your story makes mine look like a walk in the park. I would love to see this guy prosecuted, but please, be careful with yourself.

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  44. I am so sorry to hear that this happened to you, and am praying for your family! I hope that you do seek legal action against him, to prevent him from doing this to anyone else. Stay strong!

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  45. Wow! I am so sorry this happend to you! Unbelievable! I hope everything works out. I'm not sure this person she be out and about anywhere.

    BTW...Happy Birthday!

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  46. FFM,
    I would not press charges for safety reasons. I would use it as a learning experience, which you have. If anyone approaches you again in a negative manner please pack up the family and drive off. If you feel as if you are being followed, drive to a fire station, not directly home.

    My son's Austin condo has seen a rash of car breakins and our lovely Houston Memorial neighborhood had a home invasion last week, the couple was held at gunpoint. The husband was followed home from the grocery according to the constable. They were uninjured.

    Our lives are being threatened daily as social acrimony has increased over the last 6 months.

    Children have an amazing way of recovering and will hopefully be fine soon. Take care.

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  47. This is unbelievable. You handled the situation with such calm and grace! And most importantly, kept your children & yourself safe. I am so sorry this happened. It is a good reminder to all of us that while most people are reasonable and kind (or at the very least just keep to themselves) that there are truly some offenisve, troubled, violent people out there. Thank you for sharing this and again I am so sorry you had to go through it, with children there no less. Please let us know how things progress if you can.

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  48. UNBELIEVABLE.
    I am soooooo sorry that you & your children had to endure that whole ordeal. There are some really crazy people out there...I am so thankful you all are ok.....but infuriated that you had to encounter that idiot...and the fact that he may possibly get away with it is even more infuriating...maybe there was someone around that possibly saw him that could help you....but the guy is so crazy...if you did press charges...I think I would be afraid for my safety.....like he would come back for retaliation (even though he was COMPLETELY in the wrong)my heart goes out to you! and on a happier note HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!!!

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  49. What a COWARD he is.

    Glad you are all safe!

    I would just listen to what the police recommend - they deal with these psychos on a daily basis - god bless them!

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  50. Oh, FFM. I'm sooooo sorry. That is absolutely horrible, and that man is disgusting.

    I would definitely encourage you to pursue this further. I was involved at a robbery at gunpoint on vacation in Florida, and I had nothing but wonderful experiences with the police. They were kind, helpful, and did go out of their way to try and help me, even though I live in Connecticut.

    I hope you and your boys are doing better, and that they aren't too scared.

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  51. I'm sorry to hear about this but I'm glad that you're OK (other than the vehicle).

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  52. Bikers have friends, and links to gangs, I would be careful about pursuing this horrible act of violence towards you and your family.

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  53. FFM. I am so sorry you and your boys had to encounter such an awful person. It is amazing to me how people assume they know other peoples business. I remembering reading an article on someone else who also had a handicap parking permit and how they had been yelled at and questioned by others. Handicaps aren't always visible (wheelchairs, walkers, etc..). This woman had a severe form of asthma. I am appalled that this person decided to take matters into his own hands and vandalize your property. I think I would try to get his license plates just to teach him a lesson. It is a shame that the liquor store wasn't more helpful. I am sure they have cc info on him.

    Anyhow, the world is filled with so many wonderful people. I always say that people like that are just plain miserable.

    Happy Belelated Birthday. I love your blog. I am still enjoying the bracelet (Fireball) you sold me awhile back.

    Kim

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  54. I, like everyone else, was so upset and saddened to hear that this happened. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts ;) And happy birthday!

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  55. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH for the words of kindness, support and encouragement that you all have given me! I am truly touched and blessed by each and every one of you...thank you, thank you, thank you! :)

    I do have an update: I went back to the store to follow up and spoke with the female manager. She actually took immediate action and viewed the parking lot videotape herself. I received a phone call from her saying that they do have the man on tape walking down the side of my car. She filed an incident report for me with the store and is turning the video over to the local Police Department. We'll see how it goes from here...hopefully the police will be able to take some sort of action against the man...he definitely deserves to be brought to justice. Honestly, what a coward, lowlife, and menace to society this man truly is...

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  56. I also encourage you all to be *extra careful* when you are out and about in your daily lives and routines. I hope you all have a very safe, beautiful, and blessed week! Thank you again for your concern, prayers, kindness, and encouragement! :)

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  57. FFM, I read your story on Saturday morning and I was SHOCKED but I didn't have the time to comment. What happened is just plain aweful, I'm so glad that you and the kids aren't hurt. The worst when something like that happens is that we discover the "bad" in the world all of a sudden and then we live in the fear that it could happen again. I hope that what happened is going to become just a bad memory and you'll get back to your normal life where LOVE and not HATE and fear reigns.

    Also wanted to wish you a belated happy birthday.

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  58. How very, very terrible!! I am so sorry for you that you had to go through this. It is a sad disturbed man who would target a mother and children. You made excellent calm decisions to protect your kids and keep them out of harm's way. It would have been too easy to engage this man who, was looking for a fight. Good for you for walking away. I hope you do pursue charges and they have him caught in the act on film. Please keep us updated.
    Take care!!!

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  59. First, I just wanted to say Happy Belated Birthday!! I hope you managed to salvage at least some enjoyment out of your scary birthday weekend!

    Secondly, I was also horrified after reading your story. I think you are extremely brave and level-headed, and a lot of people would have freaked out in your situation. I'm really glad your family are safe, and I hope you and your boys are doing okay emotionally.

    Personally, I am of the opinion that people who continue to harass and hurt others should be stopped at all costs. If somebody doesn't press charges and come after them, they will continue to do scary things to other families. They must be confronted, or they will get more and more powerful and think they are untouchable. Who knows what they'll do to someone in the future. As far as the police -- what the heck is a drunk guy doing riding all around town in the first place? Ask them that! Hello, police!

    Also, why not tap into the so many positive biker groups out there? Most of them are good, involved, law-abiding citizens and many have contacts with the local police and/or military families. They are usually the folks that want to prevent menaces from overtaking the town, and they are also more likely to take action. Plus, they don't want scum like that to give them a bad name. Around here, we like to send stories like this to Fox 5 News. It's a surprisingly effective tactic for both finding offenders and giving law enforcement extra incentive to do something proactive.

    Anyway, I hope you're doing okay. I'll definitely pray for you and your family. Try to enjoy the week!

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  60. FFM: First off, happy belated Birthday! OMG...I just read this and am so horrified! What kind of person would do something this horrible to a woman and her four helpless children. I'm so glad that you and your little ones are all okay. You are in my thoughts and prayers....and I second Dina all of the JCA's need to line up and give this guy a piece of our minds!!!

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  61. 3PP -- You gave excellent advice in suggesting FFM contact a positive biker org. It's a win for FFM to try and stop this man before he truly hurts someone and it's a win for biker orgs who want to change societal perceptions.

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  62. All I can say is that I am so sorry! My blood is boiling just reading the story. But, you handled yourself with such grace and class. You also stayed strong for your children and you should be commended for that! You could have panicked, but you thought about them and handled yourself so well under such scary circumstances. Karma is a (bad word) and it will come back on this guy. It may not be tomorrow or the next day, but it will.

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  63. Do not be too afraid of this bully- he chose to pick on a woman with four children- one with a handicap- so he is not a brave man. He is a complete coward and he damaged your car when he was "sure" you would be distracted and not see what he was doing.

    It is good that you made the police report because this biker guy will do this again and the more complaints there are, the more the authorities will realize that something is seriously wrong and even if they were discouraging about your chances in court, they may actually keep an eye out for him in the future. You might want to complain to the grocery store- do they have security? ...because you are NOT going to be happy going there the next time you need groceries and he is having a negative impact on their business.

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  64. How awful, what a birthday present. Sounds like you did the right thing, kept your cool and didn't continue to engage with him. Damage to your car can be reparied, damage to your or your sons cannot.

    I live in Florida as well, and while I regularly see people using the handicap parking spots who look perfectly able you never know what disabilty they might have or what disability their passanger might have. I recently read an article where a young man, again here in Florida, dropped off his disabled father and then went and parked in a handicapped spot and received a ticket because the person with the disability was not in the car (he had been dropped off).

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  65. FFM,

    I haven't read all the responses as they are so numerous ... and no surprise there. Glad you and your sons are safe. This guy is a menace to society! This happens everywhere, even in small towns. I am stunned and amazed that the business owners of the grocery and liquor store "know" about this guy, yet still continue to serve him and allow him on the property! He must spend an awful lot of money for them to be willing to put the rest of their customers at risk!

    I think you seem to be a very insightful woman, kind, and probably of great faith. I don't know that I would pursue the incident futher, exposing my family to more risk, but would rather pray for this man, that he finds his way out of the hell that he is living. Hard to suck that up, for sure!

    In the end, you may be better-off pursuing the liquor store that sells to obviously intoxicated customers. Isn't there a law against that? Bartenders can't do it, so why should stores?

    Glad you and your boys are ok. Happy Birthday! Miss the IRL pics :)

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  66. I seriously cannot believe this. I am so glad that you and your sons are okay. Please keep us updated - hopefully this maniac will be punished for his behavior.

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  67. Horrible!!!! He will likely be behind bars soon enough. A fool like that will clearly cross the line again - and this time get caught.

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  68. I was confronted by a similar person in Pizza Hut when I had my children. The man returned with six of his friends and circled our table threatening us. I called the manager over and asked him to call 911. They left immediately, but we were nervous all the way home because we didn't know if we were being followed. I am glad everyone in your family is OK. In the future, always call 911 immediately if approached in that manner again or have bad feelings from a confrontation. Don't hesitate when making the call.

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  69. I cannot believe how unbelievably rude people are!!! I am so sorry for you that this happened to you. I am glad you are safe.

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  70. That is awful! Did he use a credit card? I'm sure some low life such as that probably can't even get a credit card. Good luck in catching the bastard!

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  71. FFM- I am very sorry that this happened to you!
    Officers work varying shift rotations so sometimes it can take a few days to get back to victims. I hope the liquor store will recognize this man when he comes back and call the Police.
    Best of luck!
    God bless

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