Friday, September 28, 2012

A Little This, A Little That...

Love This...




And This...




Absolutely Stunning...




This Too...






I'm sure most of you already know that J.Crew debuted a handful of new arrivals onto their website this week. You can click here to check them out...see anything you like? Nothing for me this time around, although I did recently acquire the Biennial Medium Satchel In Calf Hair (a fairly recent new arrival) and look forward to carrying it soon. (If you missed my review, you can see it here.)

J.Crew is also offering 25% off orders of $150+ with code STYLE25 at checkout until 9.30.12. There were new Promo-priced items and markdowns this week for both the Women and Men which are also eligible for the extra % off. I've updated both lists, which you can see here and here respectively.


In other news...my search for comfortable dresses to wear at home this fall continues. I would like to find a couple that not only work well for my daily life of teaching school lessons, computer work, cooking, cleaning, and any other domestic duties that arise, but also look decent enough to wear out of the house for running errands if need be.




Speaking of dresses...do you happen to remember the Merona® Womens Printed Faux Wrap Dresses from Target that I purchased back in January and blogged about in this post, this post, and this post, too? Well...I thought you might be interested to know that I have continued to wear them on a weekly basis and they are still going strong! They have now both been laundered many, many times, and still look the same as the day they arrived at my door. Very cute and comfortable to wear, not to mention very affordable and durable. At this point their CPW is pretty much free! :)




Do you ever have those times when there is so much on your plate that you start to feel completely overwhelmed? Well...that has been me the past week or two. Life was going ok until I injured my back, and it seems ever since then I have been playing 'catch-up' on everything. This past week in particular has gotten away from me with dental appointments for the boys, speech and therapy appointments for my 6-year old, school lessons, housework, etc...




At times like this I try to remind myself to take one hour or even just one minute at a time. To remember that not everything is 'high priority', and that I should focus on taking care of the matters that ARE the most important first...leaving the others for later, or even for another day. Now this is no easy task for me, as I have a 'to-do' list every single day, and would love to get every single item checked off, yet rarely do.  For me, it is very important to remember that it is not the end of the world if I do not finish every task I set out to do each day (as I often think it to be), and to be satisfied with knowing that I have done my best to take care of my family and other responsibilites...even if there is still a mountain of laundry to do.


What about you? What do you do when you start to feel overwhelmed? Any tips you'd like to share?

That's it for now...


So what have you been up to this week? Do you have any special plans for the upcoming weekend? Please do share! I always love to hear from you! :)

xoxo,

23 comments:

  1. I frequently have weeks when it feels like all I do is play catch up. I make a to do list as well, and like you, try to prioritize. Luckily my boys are at an age where they are picking up more and more household chores without complaining. They usually do their laundry, empty trash and dishwashers, and dust. My husband is a true domestic partner which is helpful too. As long as my clients are taken care of, my kids are clean and fed and there is food in the fridge, the rest seems to get taken care of. Good luck! I know you'll get back into your groove.

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    1. Thanks Julie! I'm hoping I get back into my groove sooner rather than later. :)

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  2. I've been feeling really overwhelmed lately as well. School has been busy from the get-go, and we're trying to get my son going with some OT, so that's been at the forefront. Plus, we are planning to put our house on the market in early spring, so that's suddenly hitting us, with a host of to-do's. I love the quote you posted, and always just try to remember to take one step at a time. I'm so sorry you've been dealing with back problems. You know that I had a similar issue last year, so I can completely commiserate with how difficult it is. I hope you will be feeling in top form soon.

    Love those cute dresses! After I saw your review of the JC bag, I had to order it with the promo. I think I might order the Lady Day jacket in the navy/gray colorway to try it out at home, but that's about it for me. I'm really pleased with how my wardrobe is shaping up, especially my fall/winter closet. I've been adding more Boden and Kate Spade than JC lately, and have been really happy with those pieces.

    Hope you're feeling back in the swing of things soon! :)

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    1. Thank you M! It sounds like you have an incredibly large amount of things going on right now, too! Are you moving to another state, or just purchasing a new house? I'm sure either way it is very stressful, but must be exciting at the same time. I hope all goes well with your son's OT, and completely understand having it at the forefront. Please feel free to email me if you ever need to talk about it. My son has had OT in the past, and is waiting to get on the schedule with his new OT therapist again, so I have a little bit of experience in dealing with all of it.

      Let me know what you think of the Calf Hair Biennial once it arrives. I am really looking forward to carrying mine. :)

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  3. I know just how you feel FFM, and I think your approach will work just fine: take care of the humans first, the rest can wait!
    I have a long list to finish before I leave for Paris, including finalizing details for some bathroom renovations we are beginning while we are away. I need my house to be perfectly in order before the work begins. Luckily my contractor is terrific, he really helps me with my home and my office house, he understands that my husband does not have time for any of the chores or repairs. Still, it sometimes feels like a big burden. I just refuse to hire help with the cleaning too, it's not the same if I don't do it myself!
    I've been wearing my simple Eileen Fisher organic cotton dress under sweaters and with boots, I love it. I bought it on ebay for $69 and it's worth every penny. It washes up well after doing chores.
    That's amazing that your wrap dresses are going strong! And as far as J Crew arrivals go, there's nothing I'm interested in, what a first!
    I hope you have a great weekend and get all caught up really soon. :)

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    1. Thanks Dani! I can just imagine how much you have to do before your Paris trip, especially if you are having renovations done while you are gone. Your contractor sounds wonderful though, and it will be so nice to have it completed upon your arrival home. Even with all the extra things to do, you must be getting incredibly excited that your trip is so soon. I hope you have an amazing time! :)

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  4. WAVING NOT DROWNING FFM, at the especially challenging swamped times, and we all have them, I think it helps to take one of those minutes to find satisfaction in all the items you did cross off and all the unexpected things and over-runs you dealt with successfully as well, instead of focussing on what's not finished, yet. I try to be really honest with myself and put a realistic A/B/C & N (nice but not necessary or my true priority) next every last list items. Then when the A's and the B's are done, after each group, or really tough task, I make sure to "reward" myself and find a little joy, even if it's just listening to a song, reading one like-minded blog, or taking 5 minutes outside. Although I know it is far easier said than done, positive motivation works better than self-criticism for us all. Have confidence you will get your own just right track back soon. Meantime know you aren't alone. Thanks for the genuine post. And congratulations again on that fabulous Biennial!

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    1. Thank you GetFresh! You are absolutely right about positive motivation, and I really need to remember that more when it comes to myself. I often tend to be overly critical of what I didn't get done, as opposed to being pleased with what I did actually accomplish on any given day. Thank you for the words of encouragement, and the congrats on my new bag! :)

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  5. FFM, kudos to you for doing all that you do with such a positive attitude! You have my sincere admiration for being such a positive role model for your family, friends and blog readers!

    I don't do half as much as you, to be honest. I'm still reconciling myself to being a more responsible woman now that I have 1.5 young children! :) Regardless, I already count 'me-time' as one of the most important times of 'day' for me. I love sitting down with a book or a pet TV show (guilty pleasure) and dessert and a cup of tea late at night to just zone out. I don't even mind paying for a little sleep forgone by being a teeny bit more exhausted the next day!

    Anyway, whatever your oasis (spa, reading, sleeping, swimming, walking, chatting with dear friends or watching TV or reading) I hope you will find time for it every day!

    all the best.

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    1. Thank you so much maqsad! I hope you are feeling really good these days! How much longer until your new little one arrives?

      I do try to take a little bit of time for myself each day. Right now I really enjoy relaxing in bed with a cup of tea at night (after my littles are in bed) to watch one of my mystery series. I find myself really looking forward to it these days. :)

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  6. I hope you find some personal time to relax and recharge. I have recently been helping care for children and the household since my husband's close friend passed away and left his family quite unable to manage emotionally. It was difficult and I turned to my mother for advice frequently. She did remind me that my own family will likely afford a bit more planning and preparation time and would not be under such circumstances so I shouldn't stress about the times when I was so overwhelmed. I certainly appreciate mothers work much more now and I hope I can manage when my turn comes!

    Wishing you a wonderful, restful weekend.

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    1. Thank you xoxo! I do hope that the widow and children of your husband's close friend are doing ok. It must mean so much to them to have you to help care for them in this difficult time. I agree with your mother that it will more than likely be different with your own family since the circumstances will not be the same. I also think that you will be an absolutely wonderful mother!

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  7. Hi FFM! I wanted to write yesterday and didn't have time to thoughtfully respond to your post!

    I am so with you this week on feeling overwhelmed! My work has gotten crazy again and I am back to working lots of overtime, sitting on my couch for way too much time reviewing documents, etc. And I am not getting enough exercise, so I am off this morning to look at exercise machines (my 10 year old treadmill broke) - I need to be able to exercise at home as once winter comes I cannot go for long walks in the evening and frankly that is my only opportunity for exercise! And husband, newly retired, is starting his own company, which is very much in the early stages and so he has all kinds of time right now, which is hard to see sometime when you are overwhelmed with work. Sigh...

    Having said all of that, we are so right to take care of ourselves and as a mother of young children, that is so important for you, isn't it? Mine are 17 and 20 now and basically independent except for their emotional and money needs!!!! At times, I certainly miss having young children, at other times am relieved to be moving on to this next phase. It is such a privilege to be a mother, but my experience is that the really great mothers, like you (and i hope me) are all in and we often wear ourselves down at the expense of others and i am glad you are treating yourself!

    There is much guilt at times when we don't get it all done. I have decidedit will never be all done, so I try to not beat myself up! The two things I vowed to do this fall and winter werto exercise more and read more. I am trying to do both! For me, the blog is a fun diversion that gives me a much needed jolt, as are visiting wonderful blogs like yours! You are always so positive and that just radiates, even when you are writing about being overwhelmed!

    Have an absolutely wonderful, and restful, weekend!

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  8. p.s. -on a completely frivolous note - is it wrong that at almost 50 years of age, I want a ballet dress like the one above?????

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    1. Thank you so much WMM! You are so right about the guilt that often comes when everything does not get done. Like you, I try not to beat myself up about it, especially after having children and realizing that everything takes twice as long (sometimes longer) to get done than it did before. Funny thing is, I think most of the time any sort of mess that may be left around bothers me more than it does my hubby or sons, so I really need to try extra hard not to let it bother me so much.

      I hope your hunt for a new treadmill was successful and you will share pics of it with us! :)

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  9. I don't know how you do it, I always have a list of things needing done/fixed and no sooner do I get to the end of it than I have to start a new one. I really don't know how you manage, I think I'd be in fraught tears most days. I would come and help you if you were closer.
    Oh and backs - I have a heat pad on just now and lay awake with the gnawing pain for most of the night.

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    1. Oh Tabitha, I do hope that your back starts to feel better soon! Please do be sure to rest as much as possible. I know for certain that it is very important that you do.

      As for managing, there are days with tears, as well as days where I feel as if I can handle anything that comes my way. Some days I feel as if I would rather not have to manage at all, but that is just not an option, so I 'carry on' to the best of my ability, as most of us do.

      I would absolutely take you up on your offer to help if you lived closer, btw! :)

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  10. I love the stunning details but most days I'm more like the top two images you show and love that too.

    Recently, I was completely overwhelmed at work. After some advice from a good friend, I wrote a list of things I'd do, things I'd attempt to do and things that would go by the wayside. It took just a few minutes but I felt much better knowing and accepting the things that would not get done. I think that helps.

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    1. Hi Tiffany Rose! I have been thinking the same thing regarding my own personal style and the clothing items with the stunning details. While I am always drawn to the shiny, sparkly, flowery, and stunning pieces, I actually prefer to dress very understated and simple. This is something I have been trying to put 'into action' more often whenever I shop for myself.

      Great advice on accepting the fact that some things just will not get done. Thank you for stopping by! :)

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  11. I'm late, but I wanted to add a word of encouragement. Himself used to say that having a family has taught him that the things you care about most are often the things about which you can do the least. I thought he was just saying that to help me ease up a little, but life has taught me that he was just stating a simple truth.

    And me? I'm the one who says if you're a parent you never stop watching your children for signs of improvement.

    The rest of our wisdom derives from the remarks of parents who were older that most people's parents and saw life through the sad spectacles of events that are now just a history lesson to most.

    I know you only through your writing, which shows a kind and conscientious and loving mother and wife, and also shows that you have the strength and patience to sort things out.

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    1. Thank you so much for the words of encouragement, wellfedfred! I am so happy that you stopped by today! I hope that Himself is feeling much better these days. Thank you for also sharing his words of wisdom with me. :)

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  12. Hi FFM, You have lots on your plate with 4 little guys! You know it's fine to move up the item on the ToDO list to the next day or week if not crucial. Sounds like we are all with you on this!

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    1. Thank you Lane! Well, my oldest is 14, so he really is such a big help to me on a daily basis. The youngest 3 are currently 'in training' when it comes to household chores, but do try their best. We definitely move our To Do list items to the following day, and that happens on a daily basis. I know it makes life much less stressful to just accept the fact that everything isn't going to get marked off. Doing that is what I need to get better at though. Thank you so much for stopping by, and for your words of encouragement! :)

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